Is Passion Out the Window Because You Resent Feeding Your Loved One’s Hearing Loss? 8 Steps: How to Go From Resentment to Rekindling Passion
A new book by Clinical Audiologist Richard Carmen, Au.D., helps people find the eight steps that can rekindle passion and stop co-dependent resentment against a loved one’s hearing loss. “How Hearing Loss Impacts Relationships, Motivating Your Loved One” is an Auricle Ink Publishers 2005 spring release.
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June 9, 2005 -- Did you know that untreated hearing loss is a rising statistic
in divorce? That there are more than 28,000,000 Americans with hearing loss,
with only 20% seeking help? That 80% of those who are hard of hearing don’t seek
hearing aids or any other treatment? That issues surrounding hearing loss are a
major contributor toward family friction and unhappiness?
Studies show
that hard-of-hearing people who were fitted with hearing aids experienced a 36
percent reduction in depression. Not to mention isolation and a suppressed
libido.
Coming to terms with your mission of no longer enabling your
loved one by supporting his denial or feeding his hearing loss and instead
helping him or her to get help will get back the good life you both once shared,
according to Clinical Audiologist Richard Carmen, Au.D., Doctor of Audiology.
Carmen’s new book, “How Hearing Loss Impacts Relationships, Motivating
Your Loved One,” provides fascinating insights into the psychological mechanisms
behind resistance. Clarified is the essential role family members play in
co-dependence, and what they can do to shift their loved one from “struggling to
hear” to “hearing independence .” It will inspire readers to make the necessary
adjustments in their lives that can result in profound changes and a higher
quality of life for everyone.
Are you one of those who are compelled to
fill in the conversation blanks, talk louder, or interpret what was said? Then
you are an enabler; you are co-dependent. Be aware that, so long as you continue
on this path, you are pulling out the carpet of motivation from beneath your
loved one, and incurring resentment within the both of you.
Resentment
cancels out passion. Here are eight steps to beginning a new life and rekindling
the passion your relationship once had.
1. Set new
boundaries for yourself. Don’t use your own fear of conflict with your loved one
as an excuse to avoid making changes that will benefit you both.
2. Be truthful with yourself and your loved one. Speak
from your heart, not from anger, on how this hearing problem impacts you.
3. Be Strong. Don’t fall back into a cycle of “hearing
for your loved one” just because he or she expects it, and you can’t bear to see
them struggle.
4. Put yourself in their shoes. The
need to retain one’s self-image or vanity is often times more important than a
need to hear. Try understanding. Remove demands, threats and consequences.
Instead, offer choices, options and helpful
alternatives.
5. Stop being the messenger. Refuse to do
the “he said - she said” dance for your loved one. He or she needs to be aware
what they are missing or they will stay complacent, unmotivated to do anything.
6. Stop raising your voice, then complaining you’re
hoarse. This results in a stressed throat, injured vocal chords, and your
diminished well-being, all leading straight to resentment.
7. Eliminate your need to be right. Dig deep and find
a sensitive, compassionate way to broach the topic of seeking treatment.
8. Seek out support. Ask for testimonials from friends
and colleagues whose relationships were rekindled when they sought a way to
return to the hearing world.
Dr. Richard Carmen’s new book, “How Hearing
Loss Impacts Relationships, Motivating Your Loved One,” is available in
softcover (107 pages) at most online and brick and mortar bookstores for
$15.95.
Other books on the subject by Auricle Ink Publishers:
* “The
Consumer Handbook on Hearing Loss and Hearing Aids,” edited by Clinical
Audiologist Richard Carmen, Au.D., Doctor of Audiology
* “The Consumer
Handbook on Dizziness & Vertigo, by Dennis Poe, MD, Editor
Sample
chapters of all three books are available at www.hearingproblems.com
PR Information
Interviews with Dr. Richard Carmen, Au.D., Doctor of
Audiology and copies of “How Hearing Loss Impacts Relationships, Motivating Your
Loved One,” are available on request from:
Raleigh Pinskey, Raleigh
Communications
800-249-7322, e-mail protected from spam bots
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